Read Your Male

Something amusing happened the other day. I happened to look out my window Just in time to see the postal worker delivering our mail. As soon as the mail had been delivered, I called out to my children, “Who wants to get the mail?” And as if some lucky child was about to win the golden ticket to Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory, all my children ran to me screaming, “I do, I do!”

As my three children raced to the mailbox, it struck me as humorous, because when I was a child, checking the mail was always the highlight of my day. I have no idea why. There was never a letter for me … unless it was Christmas, my birthday or the occasional note from a nearby church thanking me for attending their VBS. But there was always such joy in retrieving the latest bills, junk mail and coupons from the mailbox. I remember asking my mom to separate the envelopes that she’d allow me to open. Now I’m the mom, and I open and read plenty of mail every day. I guarantee you the thrill is no longer there for me.

A similar comparison can be drawn to how many women relate to their husbands. What if it’s no longer exciting or fun for a woman to read her male? If you’re like me, in the beginning of my relationship with my husband, I spent all my energy getting to know him and his likes and dislikes. I quickly knew his favorite sports teams, desserts, movies, restaurants and bands. I wanted to know all the things he liked, so I could use this information at the perfect time to “wow” him with a great date and assure him I was a great catch! I think sometimes we can get caught living day by day in a rut, familiar with the life we live together as a couple, but forgetting that your husband is still an individual with needs and desires that only you can meet.